Daddy’s little girl

7 cool dads share how they bond with their daughters

In a traditional family, the dad is the toughie or disciplinarian while the mom is the softie or nurturer. That is why whenever I see daughters turning to their dads instead for advice or if they have a stronger or closer relationship, it always touches my heart because it’s very uncommon. Normally when a daughter has a problem or concerns, she would turn to her mother and ask for her advice or help.

According to Michael Austin, associate professor of philosophy at the Eastern Kentucky University and editor of Fatherhood – Philosophy for Everyone: The Dao of Daddy, “A father’s influence in his daughter’s life shapes her self-esteem, self-image, confidence, and opinions of men. How a father approaches life will serve as an example for his daughter to build off in her own life, even if she chooses a different view of the world.”

Austin added that the type of men that women date and have long-term relationships with is also directly related to the kind of relationship a girl has with her father.

The father figure in a girl’s life can somehow shape her opinions of men in a positive/negative way. Whether or not the father is married to or still together with his daughter’s mom, showing respect to her mother is essential as well.

For some dads, it’s easier to bond with a son than a daughter. So how do you bond with your daughter or little girl? These seven cool dads share simple but very engaging and nurturing ways to spend time with their little girls.

These dads revealed that even if they act strong and tough in public, seeing their little girls smile or hearing them cry or giggle would really melt their hearts or complete their day.

Army officer Col. Romeo S. Brawner Jr. with daughter Krystka Zurielle

“We bond by having pillow fights before sleeping. If we feel bored with our pillow fights, we settle for a read-a-book together session.” 

Brawner

Businessman Alejandro A. Orillo with daughter Shelly Flor

“We bond by reading books and watching cartoons on TV. We do a lot of running, scribbling with crayons on scratch papers, and sleeping.”

OrilloAustralian-based programmer Mamot Reyes with daughter Liz

“Spending quality with my daughter is one of the things I always look forward to. My daughter loves to be outside, so you would always see us in parks and playgrounds especially during weekends. I help her do her homework. We love to play board games, read books, dance to her favorite tunes, or just simply goof around. Doing something fun and entertaining is a great way to bond with her.

Reyes

Content Manager Rolly Cerera with daughter Sofia Areese

For a while, I was under the impression that being a teacher is a true testament of one’s patience – I was proven wrong when my daughters came. Feisty yet adorable, they are the meaning of my life. I have always wanted to provide them with the things I never had when I was a child only to learn that what they truly need has no monetary value – time. The most opulent parent may surround their children with the most expensive and top of the line kiddie products available, but sharing time with them will negate all tangible materials.

In our modern world, hardworking parents often misunderstand quality time with going out to the mall or park. Interaction is vital to child’s growth. Grab a pencil and sketch her favorite flower or scenery, read her a story, make her hold the ladle and guide her small hands around the pot, play hide and seek, or comb her hair gingerly after giving her a shower – parenting doesn’t need to be researched or “Google-d”, you simply need to follow your heart.”

Cerera

Army Technical Sergeant Rogel Cacho with daughter Princes Katherine

“During weekdays, we bond by watching basketball games and Nickelodeon on TV. Every weekend, we go to the playground in Market! Market! so she can play there.”

Cacho

Respiratory Therapist Chito Patricio with daughter Rana Cossette

“Parenting in Saudi Arabia is usually done on shifts because my wife and I are both working. But when I’m alone with Rana at home, I’m the daddy-sitter, which means I take care of everything from changing clothes, bathing, to preparing meals. We play a lot. During weekends when my wife and I are usually off duty, we go to the mall to stroll, shop, dine-out, and go to the arcade, which is Rana’s favorite.”

Patricio

 

“Daughters will see what their dads believe about women by how they value and respect women, or by how they fail to do so,” said Austen. So dads, now you know!

The article was originally published at Baby On Board April 2013

Published by Mylene Orillo

Mylene Orillo is a contributing writer at the Health & Lifestyle magazine.  Prior to that, she's a former correspondent at The Manila Times; former editor-in-chief of TravelPlus magazine; and former assistant editor of Health & Lifestyle, Zen Health, and DiabetEASE magazines by FAME Publishing, Inc., a company owned by cardiologist Dr. Rafael Castillo who has given her the much-needed break and opportunity in the health industry and medical field.  Her previous job as Media Consultant at the Philippine Charity Sweepstakes Office and Writer-Researcher at the Headquarters Philippine Army ignited her passions for charity, volunteering, selfless service, and love of country. As a young girl, she loved reading her mom's collection of Mills & Boons pocketbooks, which started her passion to write romance stories.  She has a Bachelor of Arts degree in Journalism from the University of Sto. Tomas in España, Manila. She is now working towards earning her master's degree hopefully this year. She loves traveling, long-distance running, reading romance and non-fiction books, watching Korean Drama series, feel-good rom coms, military movies, and documentaries during her spare time. Someday, she wants to meet Prince William and Pope Francis, settle down with the love of her life and have a family and kids of her own; and become a bestselling romance author.

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