5 reasons why I love being single, traveling

Six years ago, I promised myself to celebrate my birthday every single year by rewarding myself an out of the country/town trip. But it has to be not just a trip, but a meaningful one. And a meaningful travel for me is traveling with my loved ones or special someone, exploring new places, trying out delicious food/cuisine, learning new culture, and meeting new people (a blue-eyed, blonde guy…perhaps!), and I think the best time to do that is now while I’m young and able.

I love to see the world and all its possibilities. And traveling for me is about letting go of my fears and inhibitions and seeing the places and people I only get to see in photos or online.

My first time to travel alone in Sydney, Australia in 2010 to attend my uncle's 50th birthday
My first time to travel alone in Sydney, Australia in 2010 to attend my uncle’s 50th birthday. This is at Sydney Opera House
With my parents, sister and kids in Singapore in 2014
With my parents, sister and kids in Singapore in 2014

A lot of people have been asking me why I’m still single at 36 years old. Why not? Being single gave me the opportunity to travel and spend more time with my parents who are not getting any younger. I’ve given those inquisitive people all possible answers from “I’m too busy,” “Haven’t found the right guy yet,” to “I’m leaving the country for good” yet they still ask me every single time. And these days, I just try to smile, change the topic, or evade the question as if being single is a crime.

There’s so much to love about being single and traveling, and here’s why I’m loving it:

I own my time. I do hate asking permission when going to places.  I love working on my own time. I don’t even like people waiting up on me. Maybe I got used to it. So being single allowed me to do whatever I want, whenever I want it. Sometimes being in a relationship restricts me from doing something I love, most especially when I don’t share the same interests with the guy. So being single allowed me to do just everything I want – sleep, run, and travel more, do more or less.

I can travel anywhere, everywhere. When I made that promise to myself six years ago, I was able to visit a few Asian countries (with my mom): Malaysia and Thailand; (with family): Hong Kong and Singapore; and (alone) Australia and they were all very memorable and fun.

While I look forward to the day I travel with that someone special, for now I can’t prevent myself from traveling just because I’m single. Life does not wait on anyone so I might as well enjoy it while I can with people I value and cherish the most – my family.

My most recent trip with mom in Naga City, Bicol in the Philippines last September 2016
My most recent trip with my mom in Naga City, Bicol in the Philippines last September 2016 to give thanks to the Our Lady of Penafrancia for all her intercessions and blessings
A family trip in Universal Studios in Singapore with my 8-year-old niece, Rianna in 2014. Rianna suffered from encephalitis/pneumonia last October 2015. We were supposed to celebrate Christmas in Hong Kong Disneyland with the whole family on December 2015 but we had to cancel our trip, which we booked a year in advance. God has better plans I know. But with God’s grace, we hope to fulfill that dream trip with Rianna when she gets better

I have peace of mind and less drama. Being in a relationship is not all bed of roses. While it’s normal to have misunderstandings and couple fights once in a while, being single somehow shielded me from that and more as I only have myself to worry about.

I live in a very busy place, I work every day, and the last thing I needed is someone I have to worry about, who won’t text or call, or who won’t even tell me his whereabouts, whose always checking up on me, or someone I always have to check up on. We all need a lot of positivity, happiness, and peace of mind in this world full of chaos. (Haha, no, I don’t mean to sound bitter!)

Of course, I get to meet “guys”. Traveling allows me to meet different kinds of people and of course, single guys too. So being single allows me to mingle and meet interesting guy/s who share my passions and interest, who live in a place very different from mine. I do get attracted to men who are very smart, funny, adventurous, good-looking, mysterious, loves traveling, open-minded, but who would love to be in a committed relationship (I hope that’s too soon).

Unfortunately, I’ve never met him yet in all the places/countries I’ve been to. So maybe, maybe I think I need to travel again. Like they say, the right person is just out there waiting for you. Who knows he’ll be sitting right next to me on my next trip, in a bus, train, plane? You’ll never know!

My second time in Sydney, Australia in 2013
My second time in Sydney, Australia in 2013. I went to Sydney to cover the World Lung Congress. That’s tita Chie Carorasan on the photo and some unnamed tourists

I learn and keep on learning. Of course, you’ll discover a lot of things when you travel. You are exposed to the other side of the world that you see only in photos. You won’t believe how they do things differently there. For example, how clean and disciplined people are in Singapore, or how you should act when you’re in Muslim country. Such an eye-opener! And traveling just allows me to learn that and more.

In Malaysia in 2011
In Malaysia in 2011

Of course, I look forward to the day when I get to travel with a special someone. It’s been x years since I’ve been in a relationship. But as they say, the right one comes at the perfect time and place and at the most unexpected time – no one can force it.

Also for now, my family and I have decided to postpone our international trips to be able to support my niece’s continuous medication and rehabilitation as she will be needing financial support the most and thank God she’s making a really, really good progress.

As one quote said, “As with any journey, who you travel with can be more important than your destination” and in time, I do hope to travel again with my family, with Rianna, and with that special someone… In God’s perfect time.


Published by Mylene Orillo

Mylene Orillo is a contributing writer at My Pope Philippines. Prior to that, she contributed to the Health & Lifestyle magazine.  She's a former correspondent at The Manila Times; former editor-in-chief of TravelPlus magazine; and former assistant editor of Health & Lifestyle, Zen Health, and DiabetEASE magazines by FAME Publishing, Inc., a company owned by cardiologist Dr. Rafael Castillo who has given her the much-needed break and opportunity in the health industry and medical field.  Her previous job as a Media Consultant at the Philippine Charity Sweepstakes Office and Writer-Researcher at the Headquarters Philippine Army ignited her passions for charity, volunteering, selfless service, and love of country. As a young girl, she loved reading her mom's collection of Mills & Boons pocketbooks, which started her passion to write romance stories.  She has a Bachelor of Arts degree in Journalism from the University of Sto. Tomas in España, Manila. She is now working towards earning her master's degree hopefully this year. She loves traveling, long-distance running, reading romance and non-fiction books, watching Korean Drama series, feel-good rom coms, military movies, and documentaries during her spare time. Someday, she wants to meet Prince William and Pope Francis, settle down with the love of her life and have a family and kids of her own; and become a bestselling romance author.

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