Pregnancy in your 30s

‘The happy medium-age for motherhood’

Having a baby was not part of Jiji and Karl’s immediate plans after marriage. They wanted to enjoy each other’s company and save before having a baby first so it was only after three years of marriage when they finally decided to have a baby.

Jiji, 35, used to work as an administration supervisor/travel desk coordinator in a private company; while Karl works as an IT Specialist. While she admitted she didn’t have a hard time conceiving a baby at the age of 30, as she was already 31 years old that time, she experienced skin allergies and morning sickness during her first trimester of pregnancy like other pregnant women do.

She also craved galunggong (big-bellied round scad), burger steak, water melon, and fried spring rolls; and was sensitive to perfumes, seeing certain people, and was easily irritated by their voices and comments.

An article by ABC News said that “By age 30, peak fertility has already dropped by 30 percent, and women in this age group are less likely to become pregnant right away.”

Baby Center website also said that there’s a risk of miscarriage and Down syndrome and they rise slowly, but steadily as women age, as do genetic abnormalities become more of a concern.

While many consider 30 as the “happy medium age for motherhood” as the couple or the mother is more apt to be secure in her career and relationship at this age, every study and expert say 35 is the age of reckoning for women.

“A woman needs to get serious if she wants to have children – especially if she wants more than one,” said the article, to which Jiji also agreed to: “Start thinking about having kids as early as you can while you’re still young and healthy so you can still take care of your baby. And when you finally have a baby, especially if it’s your first time, there are many ways how to take care of your baby, you can ask your doctor, other moms so you can get more tip and do the research over the internet.”

Baby Center advised women who want to get pregnant to prepare themselves for pregnancy.

“If you’re under 35 and have had frequent (about two or three times a week) unprotected sex for a year without becoming pregnant, then it’s probably time to consult a fertility expert. If you’re 35 or over, you should see a specialist if you have had frequent unprotected sex for six months and are still not pregnant.”

The article added that if you know of any specific reasons you may have trouble getting pregnant, such as a history of irregular or missed periods, sexually transmitted diseases or pelvic pain, or your partner has sexual or erectile dysfunction, you may want to see an expert even sooner.

“A baby is a blessing. A gift from heaven above, a precious little angle to cherish and to love.”

But if you’re over 30 and still have no baby, don’t fret, don’t worry, don’t give up, even miracles take a little time. Just keep the faith.


Published by Mylene Orillo

Mylene Orillo is a contributing writer at My Pope Philippines. Prior to that, she contributed to the Health & Lifestyle magazine.  She's a former correspondent at The Manila Times; former editor-in-chief of TravelPlus magazine; and former assistant editor of Health & Lifestyle, Zen Health, and DiabetEASE magazines by FAME Publishing, Inc., a company owned by cardiologist Dr. Rafael Castillo who has given her the much-needed break and opportunity in the health industry and medical field.  Her previous job as a Media Consultant at the Philippine Charity Sweepstakes Office and Writer-Researcher at the Headquarters Philippine Army ignited her passions for charity, volunteering, selfless service, and love of country. As a young girl, she loved reading her mom's collection of Mills & Boons pocketbooks, which started her passion to write romance stories.  She has a Bachelor of Arts degree in Journalism from the University of Sto. Tomas in España, Manila. She is now working towards earning her master's degree hopefully this year. She loves traveling, long-distance running, reading romance and non-fiction books, watching Korean Drama series, feel-good rom coms, military movies, and documentaries during her spare time. Someday, she wants to meet Prince William and Pope Francis, settle down with the love of her life and have a family and kids of her own; and become a bestselling romance author.

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