QUOTABLE QUOTES: Living Whole Without a Better Half by Wendy Widder

I finished reading this book today. It’s actually my second book out of 40 target books to read this year.

Living Whole Without a Better Half
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I know, I know. I am way behind my schedule. Goodreads already prompted me that I’m nine books behind schedule. Since I have two more weeks of enhanced community quarantine, I wanted to take advantage of that to read books.

But before I start reading my third book, I gathered all quotes I highlighted from this book that in one way or another touched my heart.

For single people out there, I highly recommend that you read this book to help you get through this season in your life. This book talks about the struggles of being single in this world, the pains of rejection, waiting, hoping, and wishing your time will come to walk down the aisle.

I hope you enjoy this book and find encouraging words to help you go through this season as much as I did. You are not alone! Check my previous post about singlehood (5 Reasons Why I Love Being Single and Traveling)


“[He] satisfies your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.” – Psalms 103:5

“No good thing does he withhold from those who walk is blameless.” – Psalm 84:11

“And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:19

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” – 2 Corinthians 12:9

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” – Romans 8:28

“First of all, the race was marked out; simply follow the map. Secondly, persevere; things will definitely be tough, but you can do it. And finally, run; keep moving forward and give it all the energy you have.”

“Abraham knew his God was powerful; he knew He could do what He had promised – somehow God’s plan no longer shocked him; what did plague him, though, was ‘When?’”

“This act of faith involved no commands to obey, only a promise to believe. For 25 years, Abraham trusted God to be faithful. I’m sure he was frustrated and impatient a little day or two out of the 9,125. And I’m sure he sent cries of desperation heavenward in moments of despair. To be sure, he had his moments of doubt, skepticism, and even attempts to help God, but the prevailing theme of Abraham’s lie is that he trusted God.”

“What Abraham didn’t know was that in those two and a half dark decades of waiting, God slowly conditioned his faith, working it into shape for an ever-bigger test to come.”

“Abraham didn’t have to know the answer – he knew the antidote, he knew God could fix it.”

“Faith is seeing the invisible, believing the incredible, and receiving the impossible.”

“I’d like to know how to manage maintenance on a car as a single woman. I’d like to know if I’ll ever walk down the aisle as the main attraction instead of as a member of the supporting cast.”

“Isn’t it about time you got married?” He voiced one of those questions that lurk in the hearts of every single adult who desires to be married. It resides next to half a dozen others we’ve been asked over the years – questions for which we either don’t have the answers or don’t like the answers:

  • Do you have a boyfriend?
  • You’re a nice girl; why aren’t you dating anyone?
  • How’s your love life? [Would you dare ask a married person this?!]
  • Are you looking for a husband?
  • So, you’re still single?
  • Do you want to get married?

“She talked of the many things she thought she’d be doing at this point – with her husband. To go ahead and do them without him seemed like an admission of defeat, admitting all of her dreams were dead.”

“As I healed, I began to see God as I’d never seen Him before. Taking long walks with pockets full of tissues and eyes blurred with tears, I did the only thing I could – I cried out to the One who knew what I couldn’t explain to anyone else. He didn’t need details or background information; He knew everything. The anguish of my crushed hopes, devastated dreams, and unrealized expectations reached to the deepest parts of His heart, too.”

“Pain is the storm that strips away the frills of life. Life in modern America is so dressed up in all important technology, convenience, and luxuries that sometimes it’s hard to see through to the needs of the heart. When life falls apart, though, the latest gadget doesn’t bring much comfort or offer many answers.”

“In the struggle to retain my life dreams and somehow make them happen, I’ve sometimes felt like a Rubik’s Cube. Just when I get one side of my life falling into place and making some sense, I realize that so much else is beyond my control. I am helpless to solve things, and in fact, I make a bigger mess and create more pain. It’s only when I hand it back to the Master Puzzler that there is hope. He may twist and change the whole puzzle, and it may appear to me that He’s just created another disaster beyond repair, yet I know that my puzzle is never out of His control. Sometimes the transitions, twists, and turns of life make me creak and groan. I don’t understand, and I don’t see the solution. Sometimes I wonder what on earth He is doing with my life, but I’m so thankful that He understands what I can’t. With a lot of patience on my part and an expert series of twists on His part, life takes on a whole new dimension.”

“The crushing pain of a sharpened heart is intense, but life manages to go on whether or not I think I can. Somehow the days become weeks, the calendar pictures keep changing and I make it through.”

“The obedience of Noah went beyond doing what God said simply because the results of not doing so would be painful. Genesis 6:9 reveals that Noah ‘walked faithfully with God.’ He lived his life circumspectly, carefully walking a path that lined up with God’s footsteps. He didn’t run ahead with his own plan, or trail behind reluctant to follow, or tug stubbornly in the opposite direction. Noah walked with God; he wasn’t walked by God.”

“The struggles of singleness are real, and they are significant. Being single in a world designed by God for partnership brings pain. I fight the feelings of ‘unsettledness’ tempted to wonder if and when marriage will come. I cradle tiny babies in my arms, filled with wistful longings to have my own. I go solo to social events popularized by couples and feel the all-too familiar stabs of aloneness. I get weary of waking up to the furry face of Edward, my stuffed elephant. I tire of digging up dates to attend friends’ weddings. I battle the loneliness of not having a constant, committed companion.”

 “I’m not pretending to know the reasons why I’m still single, but I do know that even in the hardest of situations, God often gives tiny glimpses into some good things He’s doing. Backing away and forcing myself to see the positive helps me press on. Some people call it the cloud’s silver lining or the rose in the thorns. I think it’s a whole lot more. I like to call it walking on the water.”

“Singleness can be a platform, water to walk on instead of a storm to wait out. Without family responsibilities, I am free to pour my energies into local church ministries. With just me and my paycheck, I can sometimes afford to encourage friends with impulsive gifts. Without the encumbrances of someone else’s schedule, I can give extra attention to developing reading, writing, and study habits.”

“Some knowledge is too heavy for children. When you are older and stronger, you can bear it. For now, you must trust me to carry it for you.”

“Some knowledge is too heavy for children. I’m glad I have a Father to carry it for me, and I’m glad He’s got another hand to hold.”

“Loneliness comes easily when you’re not glued to somebody. One of the greatest longings of the human heart is to be deeply loved by another human being, to live side by side with someone who carries you in his or her heart, to be a lifelong part of somebody else. Being single means, I don’t have a permanent ‘it,’ the one special person who is committed to caring about the details of my life. There’s no one who knows me intimately and still likes me, there’s no one who has chosen to stick by me no matter what. It leaves me with a sense of incompleteness and aloneness.”

“It requires great mental discipline to fight loneliness.”

“But sticking close to my ‘It’ is the only thing that gets me through the lonely times.”

“There’s a certain sense of inadequacy that grows out of being repeatedly ‘passed over’ by single guys, but while I ask myself why and wonder what’s wrong with me, those questions aren’t core-shaking.”

“When I’ve given the very best of who I am, when I’ve shared my innermost thoughts and fears, when I’ve trusted totally and unreservedly and then am rejected, there’s a devastating loss of confidence. To be in a relationship where unconditional love is proclaimed and promised, and the revoked, is one of the greatest losses the human heart can sustain. The messages that travel from a broken heart to a logical brain says, ‘Your best wasn’t good enough. You are inadequate and incapable of having the kind of relationship God designed for men and women.”

“God takes what we have (more accurately, what He’s given us), and He provides the power. The tools and talents He’s placed in my hands are wasted until He’s allowed full control of them. Then, and only then, through Him I can do exactly what He has in mind for me to do. He is sufficient, and He’s the one controlling what happens.”

“God’s grace is like manna. You remember the small loaves of bread God supplied for the Israelites morning after desert morning. Do you remember how He supplied it? Just what they needed, just for the day. God didn’t let them stockpile manna in the pantry. Every morning, the wanderers awoke to little loaves outside their tents. If they tried to store it up, it rotted. If they didn’t bother to gather any, they went hungry.”

“He is an ever-present, never-changing God, who wants to pull me out of a couple of barrels, too.”

“For Joseph, it didn’t matter that the job description didn’t fit his dreams. It was the job God has placed in front of him, so he majored in it and forgot the electives.”

“Wait on God to work through the adversity.”

“There’s a huge difference between waiting and waiting on God. Waiting is passing the time, wondering and worrying about what might happen. It’s wishing upon a stationary star while the world keeps turning. Waiting on God is proactively living in the middle of His ordained circumstances, confident of purpose in the process. It’s running the race even when every muscle ache and every limb throb.”

“The unpopular truth is that God often does His greatest work while we wait. It’s when He puts us in prison, when He traps us inside the cold, clammy walls of a stone cell, that He gives us the greatest opportunity to experience His deliverance.”

“Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the Lord will bring you today…The Lord will fight for you.” – Exodus 14:13-14

“When his dreams seemed more like a joke, a mockery to a man mistreated, mistrusted, and misused, Joseph waited on God and kept moving.”

“The frustration and pain of being single is nothing compared to the frustration and pain I would cause by meddling in God’s business. My life is His work. I am His workmanship. He’s in the middle of an incredible masterpiece, and only eternity will reveal the full extent of His plan. In the meantime, I’m going to keep my eyes on the road, maintain an even speed, and head in the right direction.”

“It doesn’t matter what a baby looks like; loving parents don’t discard children based on appearance and temperament.”

“The future held terrifying uncertainties, yet the humble couple was not afraid. They had dialed heaved and handed their predicament over to Someone who could deal with it. Cradled in their arms was the greatest demonstration of God’s power and person, a constant reminder that He was big enough to take care of it. Fear disappeared.”

“I’m afraid of rejection by someone I was to meet at the end of the aisle. I’m afraid of turning down a really wonderful guy who thinks I paint the sunset. I’m afraid of doing my taxes, tending my car, and planning my retirement by myself. I’m afraid of close friends moving on or moving away, leaving me to replace them – again. In a sentence, I’m afraid I’ll never get married.”

“The God who parts the waters, raises the dead, feeds the multitudes, and heals the sick is not threatened by anything. He is not baffled about the problems that keep me awake at night, nor is He paralyzed by what scares me. God has the power to eliminate any source of fear from my life.”

 “God may not guarantee happy endings in this side of heaven, but He does promise to make a way through the darkest nights and the deepest waters.”

“Whenever life threatens me, I can be afraid, or I can choose to trust. Fear comes naturally, I see my whole life in one glimpse and think I have to solve all the issues. I want answers for the unknown and solutions for the problems. The scary parts loo over me, and I struggle for control. I fight to get what I want, but somehow, I end up losing more than I gain. I lose peace of mind and enjoyment of life. I waste time and opportunities. I forfeit the richness of life that God can still create on this fallen planet.”

“The Lord is my light and my salvation – whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life – of whom shall I be afraid?” – Psalm 27:1

“Without a heart ‘fully devoted’ to the Lord his God’ (1 Kings 11:4), Solomon couldn’t keep it all together. He lost focus, his priorities shifted, and his extraordinary life slowly crumbled.”

“Distractions just seem to happen. I don’t have to go looking for them.”

“To remind myself of the reality of His eternal love, I wear a little gold band on my right hand. It helps me remember that the Father chose me as part of the bride for His son. It keeps fresh in my mind that when I was 10 years old, I accepted His offer. It says to me that I am deeply loved and longed for by Someone who is eagerly preparing a place just for me. Someone who can’t wait to be with me face-to-face forever! I wear it because it helps me remember whose I am.”

“Belonging to the Bridegroom changes the way I live. I may not have a diamond ring, a wedding date, or a bevy of bridesmaids, but I am loved. When I choose to love in return, it affects my passions, adjusts my perspectives, and dictates my pursuits.”

“Instead of wallowing in my ‘unweddedness,’ I choose to love Him. When I long to be cherished by a husband, I choose to love Him. At those difficult times when I want to quit the race, I choose to love Him. I choose to love Him because He loved me first. In the security of that love, I can run with perseverance the race marked out for me. The finish line isn’t far away and just beyond it is a wedding feast that’ll be worth the wait. Remember whose you are.”

Published by Mylene Orillo

Mylene Orillo is a contributing writer at My Pope Philippines. Prior to that, she contributed to the Health & Lifestyle magazine.  She's a former correspondent at The Manila Times; former editor-in-chief of TravelPlus magazine; and former assistant editor of Health & Lifestyle, Zen Health, and DiabetEASE magazines by FAME Publishing, Inc., a company owned by cardiologist Dr. Rafael Castillo who has given her the much-needed break and opportunity in the health industry and medical field.  Her previous job as a Media Consultant at the Philippine Charity Sweepstakes Office and Writer-Researcher at the Headquarters Philippine Army ignited her passions for charity, volunteering, selfless service, and love of country. As a young girl, she loved reading her mom's collection of Mills & Boons pocketbooks, which started her passion to write romance stories.  She has a Bachelor of Arts degree in Journalism from the University of Sto. Tomas in España, Manila. She is now working towards earning her master's degree hopefully this year. She loves traveling, long-distance running, reading romance and non-fiction books, watching Korean Drama series, feel-good rom coms, military movies, and documentaries during her spare time. Someday, she wants to meet Prince William and Pope Francis, settle down with the love of her life and have a family and kids of her own; and become a bestselling romance author.

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